tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7505202305821415305.post1988647357193086944..comments2023-12-17T23:47:52.627-08:00Comments on Chronicles of F.I.B.R.O.: The Solace Of SolitudeLeah Tylerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09339986620263501997noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7505202305821415305.post-23367042937396705782011-09-13T15:00:14.691-07:002011-09-13T15:00:14.691-07:00Great post. I've been catching up on your blog...Great post. I've been catching up on your blog today and have shared a couple of your newest entries with my friends on FB and G+.<br /><br />I'm right there with you. After a serious bout with depression that almost had me checking myself into the hospital I realized that the one thing that can save me from myself is myself. I've made it a point to get out again, to call friends, to see them, whatever it takes. While solitude is nice on occasion, I get really sick of me after a while.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00662113021220224159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7505202305821415305.post-68480869475151127452011-08-15T22:10:38.574-07:002011-08-15T22:10:38.574-07:00I, like Erin, have three children also. They have ...I, like Erin, have three children also. They have had to make a lot of adjustments to my illness, when I feel it should have been me adjusting to be a better parent and I hate that.<br /><br />Whichever choice you make, it has to be the right choice for you. And if I had known how sick I would be and how much having children exhausts you, both emotionally and physically, I might have decided on having only one. But then I wouldn't have the ones I do have that I can't imagine life without.<br /><br />My nieces are going through a bad time right now and one of the options that has been suggested is that Justin and I take them. We already have three children, all well into middle, high school, and college. These girls are 8, 9, and 10. I am not sure I am ready for three rambunctious girls (all I have are boys!) who have experienced a lot of trauma in their short lives. <br /><br />Parenting is an enormous, gargantuan commitment that does not end until the child is out on his own, supporting himself. And even then, you still worry and fret and want to help him which then causes fibro flares. <br /><br />Fibro and children is a very interesting (and often sad) dilemma. I never judge anyone who would choose not to take that on because they have fibromyalgia.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Chelle<br />www.lifeonthedomesticfront.blogspot.comChellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11483632903669245656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7505202305821415305.post-74920863677404149002011-08-15T18:28:22.737-07:002011-08-15T18:28:22.737-07:00I remember wanting to have 6 children, like my mot...I remember wanting to have 6 children, like my mother...I, however, was blessed with 3..one of which I adopted...but it has been a huge struggle to be just a decent mother to them...and now, with so many other illnesses on top of the fibro, it's almost impossible. I've had 3 major back surgeries, the last one being just 3 months ago and I have had one paralyzed leg for 12 years. They can't figure out why my leg is paralyzed...well duh...let's see if we can just pick from any of my illnesses and find our answer??? This last surgery consisted of cleaning out my spinal canal, removing another disc, putting in a spacer then rods and screws to stabilize my spine...and that's just a few of the things that fibro has "helped" mess up inside of me...So, when I have to tell my son that I am just not able to take him to Game Stop today...it just about kills me...because that's what I said yesterday...and the day before..and the day before...So, yes, I do love my children with my whole being and thank God for them every single day...but I hate that I am not able to be the mother that they deserve...and now, I'm not able to be the grandmother that my granddaughter deserves...I now thank God that He didn't allow me to have those 6 children that I wanted...He knew that I was only going to be able to handle 3...Brendahttp://www.facebook.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7505202305821415305.post-76568483525231180472011-08-15T16:48:11.279-07:002011-08-15T16:48:11.279-07:00I have three kids, but I'm a lousy mother beca...I have three kids, but I'm a lousy mother because I'm in too much pain all the time to do anything with them. On the VERY rare occasion that I (formerly a Mary Kay Consultant) put on makeup, my two-year-old looks at me like he doesn't know who I am.<br /><br />I'm glad you're doing better!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09457184064406547447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7505202305821415305.post-52001818909780200202011-08-15T16:36:11.295-07:002011-08-15T16:36:11.295-07:00I, too, wanted a boatload of children. I can'...I, too, wanted a boatload of children. I can't have them because of a blood disorder but I thought of adoption, unfortunately, I am just too ill just like you. It doesn't bother me as much as it used too. I guess we can get used to anything.<br /><br />HeatherHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18184342717608985185noreply@blogger.com